Wednesday, June 25, 2014

FL - Innocent Victim

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By Sloan44:
It is my wife that is the innocent victim in this case. I was arrested in 2000 for downloading six photos of a minor. My time has been completed,service rendered. I moved from Florida after time completed and met the most wonderful women ever,we married that year. The property we were to share our lives on was set in a small town in Ohio. I followed rules and registered at the local sheriffs office,only to find the property to be 86 feet shy of the 1000 foot rule. I had to find another place,pack and leave. These unjust laws just separated two newlyweds. I located a trailer park two miles away, I then registered it with local police. My wife,when we met,suffered from heart disease with three stints in her heart.She could not tend to chores on the five acre property so I was there to run the tractor and household repairs. I did visit her daily (Ohio law,at the time,could not prevent me from visiting) and she would visit at my place.One day after mowing the lawn the local deputies came to the door asking for me. That is when I was arrested for failing to register my address.The law claimed I was not living at the trailer park I registered under. I got out on bail and then presented proof to the police. I presented them with my rent receipt given to me,and dated,the day prior to my arrest.They would not believe me and would not drop charges. I hired an attorney, we went to the courthouse, and in while speaking with the attorney he would exit a couple times to speak with the prosecuting attorney prior to trial. He returned saying he got the charges down to "Attempted to fail registration" which was a misdemeanor. I said "NO I am innocent". That is when my wife looked at me with tears running and said to me: "Honey,I know your right but..my heart, I cant take much more of this". That is when, for the sake of her health, I bit the bullet and took the offer. I paid my fines and community service in that county of Ohio. There are many eyes and ears in that small town/county and we found it was ones down the road that made the charge. My wife and I spoke,I would leave first and she would follow. I notified the law, then relocated to Florida. My wife's family, property, is in this small town and,from time to time, she must travel there to handle matters. This recent time is when she had health problems. It was found that three arteries were blocked, one was 85%,one 90%. A cardiologist ordered a angioplasty. It was rough but after four hours, and extra attempts, they were cleared. Since we met she had other heart stints placed but this surgery made heart stint #14 and #15. And I could not be there. I could not stay on our property nor do I have the money for a hotel/motel. My wife fears that I may be arrested by the same county sheriff (Whom was out for blood the first time) will cause trouble again. She was released but the next day she was back in for severe pain radiating from shoulder to chest, and she remains there at this time. But again, the fear of being there and problems with the sheriff,( mainly her being in fear of my welfare ) I am unable to be at her side. I am in tears daily as she is as well. I would not doubt that some heart stints,needed to be inserted, were based on the pressure she went through regarding the registry. When we married the words of Matthew 19:6 were spoken. But that does not mean anything to the ones that make these unjust laws that hurt innocent family members of registrants. This sex offender registry must be abolished!


17 comments :

sloan44 said...

Check womenagainstregistry.org and check "contact us" They have a 800 hotline. Hope this helps.
We have all made wrong decisions,but the worst decision made was the registry which makes our life's even harder. And another thing...you are not a sex offender! A sex offend(ER) is someone that is currently offending,irritating,annoying someone sexually. You seem to be trying to get on with your life and not offending anyone. I prefer to use the term "Registrant". Believe me, I know how hard it is. Just stay strong and follow the rules. When we get to the tipping point things will be on our side.

thylight said...

who are you?

thylight said...

todays people do not believe and lack hope and love,but i saw his face in a dream and my faith got stronger because he healed me that night.his name is yahshua the son of yahweh.

Rev.Raymond Eli said...

when you hide your face that means you hiding something so no until you explain your issue because i have learned that there many trouble makers out there looking to make a name for themselves.but always remember i am an american and i know the laws of this state very well and i will not fear those of whom wish to harm me.i am a preacher and my church will stand behind me if any thing goes wrong as well.so if need my help remember i know if your hiding any thing i would make darn good detective.

Sex Offender Issues said...

That is not true Eli. People hide their face, etc, because their are people out there who will harass them. Just see the following for MANY examples:

http://sexoffenderissues.blogspot.com/2007/09/human-rights-issues.html

Rev.Raymond Eli said...

i spent my life with death threats and people breaking my window in my home.but as i told the police you people do not scare me because while in prison they celled me up with a murderer and he was suppose to rape me and beat me,but he taught me how to survive prison.i own him a big thank you for that.i wrote poetry for him to empress some dj chick here in oregon.this is why i know god had a plan for me.in kansas i lived at a homeless shelter and those folks were like my guiding light.so i will always owe them great respected for that.they so good things in me and never gave up on me.they also allowed me around the kids because they trusted me.and even when some of these folks found some remained my friend.i even babysitted for a female friend 4 times at my old apartment complex.so folks i am not a monster!but pushed i will protect my self and my loved ones at all cost.because the law still protects us no matter how you think.we are also children of god no matter what you might think of me.blessed be the holy name yahweh.

Matt said...

Whenever I feel down I always find it helpful to read a good book. One I always recommend is "One Flew Over the Cuckoos Nest" by Ken Kesey. While it's depressing in many ways, it also has a very uplifting and feel-good rebellious spirit to which is mostly found in the main protagonists Randle "Mac" Mcmurphy who was sent to prison and then the asylum for having sex with an underage girl (In the book she was nine, in the film she was 15.) His greatest weapon against the matriarchy is humor and laughter. An excerpt from the book:

"While McMurphy laughs. Rocking farther and farther backward against the cabin top, spreading his laugh out across the water—laughing at the girl, the guys, at George, at me sucking my bleeding thumb, at the captain back at the pier and the bicycle rider and the service-station guys and the five thousand houses and the Big Nurse and all of it. Because he knows you have to laugh at the things that hurt you just to keep yourself in balance, just to keep the world from running you plumb crazy."

And another:

"Man, when you lose your laugh you lose your footing."

So that's what you got to do. You got to laugh at the things that try to hurt you and not let them bring you down. If you get all sad and suicidal it doesn't help.

And one more:

“I can’t do nothing for you either, Billy. You know that. None of us can. You got to understand that as soon as a man goes to help somebody, he leaves himself wide open. He has to be cagey, Billy, you should know that as well as anyone. What could I do? I can’t fix your stuttering. I can’t wipe the razorblade scars off your wrists or the cigarette burns off the back of your hands. I can’t give you a new mother. And as far as the nurse riding you like this, rubbing your nose in your weakness till what little dignity you got left is gone and you shrink up to nothing from humiliation, I can’t do anything about that, either.”

Rev.Raymond Eli said...

i get it but fear does not give us a face so for those of you want a face as well as a voice i will take up that stand for you all.always remember world when you treat a man like an animal he becomes an animal.so when this world wants to keep accusing us when the rapes go on in the military every day,then is time for the world to look at itself in the face because some of these sex offenders were created by some one who molested them as a child.some of these people were brought up believing that what they were doing some that was ok.sex offenders at least some of them can get better with mental help.i got help from bertnash mental health center in kansas.i am living proof that we can get better.so when the world wants to give up on us,then why do you think some of them give on you.i myself was sexaully molested 4 times as boy and sent all those believing i was no better than them.i was beaten by my step dad from age five until i was 18.at sixteen i hit him for the first time.i lived in fear confusion and hate and hate was my way of living.i had no one tell that what those freaks did to me was not fault.remember folks some monsters are created by the cycle of evil.hell even you holy bible teaches you that.that is where i found hope and piece by piece my new soul was being born.and down deep i was being reborn and becoming human again.remember world when there is no hope then those of whom you call monsters will do just what you feared they would.so world do you want more hope or more monsters?i will let you decide!

Scott said...

It's funny you say u can make bad people good. First thought was a game of thrones quote "you know nothing John Snow." Just because someone did something that society would say is bad doesn't make them a bad person. But everyone needs a hobby so good luck.

Rev.Raymond Eli said...

i agree with you,but a lot of sex offenders are living in a bad cycle which is created by some one molesting them in their child hood.

FloridaActionCommittee2 said...

Contact Florida Action Committee. We have information and referral services to help registrants in Florida find housing and support services. Our website is www.floridaactioncommittee.org

Jill Smith said...

What the state of Michigan did should be a crime!

Marko said...

I pray that RSOL will come to Michigan and do what they are doing in California, There needs to be a revolution when it comes to sex offender laws. Seems like no matter what era we live in, there will always be a witch hunt of some sort, it's a sad stain on humanity.

running out of options said...

I left Michigan on January 1998 as a level one registrant. I was only suppose to be in the police file, but not public information. When I left and registered in the state I had moved to they told me I didn't have to worry about Michigan anymore. WRONG! In 2011 Michigan started tracking me again and put me on the internet even though I've been compliant in the state I'm in now. And the state of Iowa did this to me as well when I left there. Actually in 2004 Iowa got rid of their level system and put everyone on the internet, which made the front page of Time life magazine.

John Tynes said...

First and foremost, do NOT give up. I am right there with you. I was on the registry for over 10 years, most of it in Virginia. It was not a happy time for me or my family and I remember many times when I felt trapped and completely hopeless. I am not living in Ohio and am not on any registry.

I don't know if any of this will help, but here goes... In some (but by no means all) states, the Office of the Public Defender will take Registry cases. At least that was the policy at one time with residency restrictions. I don't know what it is now, or what it is in your state. But it's worth a look. Check to see if any of the law schools have Constitutional litigation clinics. If so, the cases are worked by third year students, directly (and closely) supervised by licensed attorneys. Again, I don't know what the schools in your area have, or whether they will take Registry cases.

The organization I know that has done the best work with these issues is the Ohio Justice and Policy Center (OJPC) in Cincinnati. To the best of my knowledge, though, they only work in Ohio. However, there are a few attorneys around the country working these cases, and maybe they would know of one in your area. That's a long shot, I will admit.

As a last resort, you might want to consider relocating to a friendlier state. That depends on the exact nature of your conviction, and the registry laws of the state. Investigate very carefully before you decide to relocate.

It is unfortunate that these issues are still not considered criminal, but civil (regulatory) in nature. This is a bad joke, because anything that subjects you to a long prison sentence is criminal in nature, unless they have opened new civil/regulatory prisons that I don't know about. And no, Guantanamo doesn't count.

I don't know if any of this will help, but I encourage you to keep fighting. I know how hard that is.

Jason Sanders said...

hello everyone it is I again.i have moved and yes I still have criminal a-o's messing me here also.some people just cannot leave me alone.i am still being stalked here also.but I am ready for a war.your world is filled with some dumb a people man.because I am an old school fighter and I got away with kicking the crap out of people in my younger days.i am still an American and I will protect my self and my family folks.so you can keep accusing all you want man,but in the end Yahweh will protect me from your evil lies man.blessed it be man.

Jason Sanders said...

Eli, we all battle demons and society treats them as the worst of the worst. I am on the sex offender registry myself and will be for the rest of my life if we all don't get some help. Being a sex offender is just like any other thing, a sin is a sin so you all people commenting get over it, it is what it is or call it by its biblical usage... Sins of the flesh...... so you have paid your time, you have repented in some way for your sin, well for every dark cloud there's a rainbow. You stick with God he will never fail you but man will...
With man it is impossible with God all things are possible. Man will come to know there errors in some of these sex witch hunts but the thing with man is they have pride. What did the bible say about the lady at the well..... Those without sin cast the first stone. So get yourself together and sin no more and use the experience to help others and encourage others.
I wonder how many churches today have sinners in them or worst yet sex offenders.