Tuesday, May 20, 2014

I could have been an RSO...

The following was sent to us via the "Tell Us Your Story" form and posted with the users permission.

By Notanso:
In 1980, I owned a small convenience store in a small Florida town.

A 17 year old, local boy, asked me for a part time job. The priority to him, was not the pay, but to get away from his abusive alcoholic mother.

He was a good worker at stocking the shelves in the store. One day, I received 2 complimentary tickets to a one day off shore cruise. Knowing it would be full of kids, I invited the boy to go with me.

Since I had been working daily in the store, I eagerly closed it for the one day.

I stayed on the top deck and slept the majority of the time.

The boy had one great time meeting so many other kids on the cruise. At the end of the day, driving home, the boy could not stop talking about how great it was to do something he never had the chance or money to do. It was a great day for him and a relaxing day for me.

As we drove back to his home, the police were waiting. They took the boy aside and me a short distance away.

I was questioned by the police as to what my relationship was with the boy. I explained innocently that we went on a free cruise sponsored by one of the store vendors. Throughout the questioning, it never dawned on me that I had done anything wrong until the mother started yelling – “your 24 – going after my 17 year old boy.”

I corrected her – no – I am not 24 – I am 38! It still never dawned on me that I did anything inappropriately.

Then I heard the boy yelling at this mother. “Every time someone wants to do something nice for me – you interfere. You drunken whore. You never want me to have anything good in my life. I hate you.”

Then the police said that is all and left.

This was 30 years ago – long before I ever knew anything about what a sex offender is.

It is only recently that I realized – I too could have been a sex offender – if it had not been for this teen-age boy to stand up to his mother and tell the truth.

You never know who is going to accuse an innocent person.

I could have been falsely accused.

Tomorrow – it could be you.


Mark said...

As I have stated in a previous article, and having been in the legal world 18+ years to see mothers and fathers druken, drugged up, beaters abusers and such making false allegations for the sake of $$$$ and now today, as I have already stated - for me children are on their own. I will not and do not help any child (hurtfully as it is), for my own self protection just as this article speaks to. Not today with the rampant paranoia, and being held captive to the most broken down, mentally skewed mentalities in the neighborhoods, towns, cities, due to the absolute media blitz, etc. And I will leave all of you with this statement from the greatest: "And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another" Matthew 24:10

Mark said...

Okay, I agree with you 100%. Now I ask this question: why would an adult on an adult chat site even communicate with a supposed under age girl/boy if it is an adult site knowing full well that it could and always is a trap? There in lies the "rub."

James said...

Now that's a tough question mark.....but truth is truth and one cannot do anything against the truth but for the truth. Sex is a powerful drug and while some may not take the bait some will.
All of us can be tricked or duped into doing something we would not normally do. We are talking about the internet and not in public. If it were in public it would never happen.
Sure we are gullible and your "Why" question" would have to be sex since that is what most people go on these adult sites' for. Opening up Pandora's box with this sneaky tactic of law enforcement goes against a lot of principles.
Where not talking about a speeding ticket we get in public or a drunk driving offense where one makes a choice of driving or speeding.
So why talk to a teenager in an adult chat room? To show some compassion or feelings.
Now I don't have all the answers as to why someone does something and why someone doesn't, but I do have an answer about choice.
That night I gave her the "Choice" if she wanted to meet me. That is the difference that some fail to notice.
While all internet chatting is not all about sex is appears that these internet stings on sex sites' are ok in your opinion.
As time goes by I'm sure we will all find out that these internet set ups with so called cop/teasers are no more than testing one's morals.
I guess if one is going to use the "Why" questions, than why would a teenager lie to you and want to meet you? or why would they say their home alone, two straight nights in a row.

dlc said...

That's what is wrong with society today. We have lost our moral compass. In the past you were innocent until proven guilty. In todays world you are guilty, whether you did anything wrong or not. Its all about the numbers, prosecutors are judged by their record of convictions, Judges by the harshness of their sentences, and the public defenders desire to be prosecutors one day so they drink and indulge in relationships with the prosecutors to further that goal. What's at stake you might ask? Your freedom. Its not about are you guilty or not, its about what kind of time can they get you to plead too. If you go to the box and the prosecution makes a better case the judge gets to throw the book at you for wasting his time. If you win the prosecutor will try to re-try you for the crime a second time. Your life is already ruined because you lose your friends and respect. You want it to go away, so in desperation you will plead out just to get the ball rolling, all the while not realizing what you have gotten yourself into. The lady in this case seems to be looking for someone to give her a big payout so she can continue her drunken ways. All the while trying to ruin someone's life. Today society is all about vengeance. Offenders are ostracized, shunned, and openly mocked. Society mainly feels good about itself when it can put down others. When good people try to help they too face the same punishment as those who "did the crime." Today, its not about "I did the crime and now I did the time," it is about permanent and continuous punishment. Societies members want to partake, they act like the ancient Greeks and Romans and the gladiatorial games. The thirst for blood is becoming the norm. Everything in society revolves around sex, cars, beer, etc.. look at the advertisements. Everything that is sold using some kind of sexual innuendo. Yes, even items sold to children are starting to see this same creepiness. Yet when someone loses the line between societal-normal and strays away from the mainstream they are quick to blame the individual. Have we lost our moral compass? I would have to say yes. Look at what is going on in Nigeria, those poor kidnapped girls are being forced to become Muslim. Once they take up those vows they can be married off and its legal. If that was in America they would be sex offenders. The whole worlds civilization is falling apart and no one seems to realize it.

Mark said...

"While all internet chatting is not all about sex is appears that these internet stings on sex sites' are ok in your opinion." No, not at all. Actually I see these "stings" as entrapment, but the courts are gutless to make that decision. It is every man for themselves if they chose to make contact with supposed under age persons. This is why these stings make such good news fodder!

frank said...

As a SO who was "duped" into one of these types of stings, I very much agree with both of your thoughts (Mark and James). Sex can very much be like a drug and at the time of my offense, I was heavily "intoxicated" in hard-core adult porn, cyber cam to cam sex and chatting. I never sought out underage interactions and never thought about looking at underage porn, but with the constant buzz of the above, I had plenty of momentum to cross a line on a random day when trained FBI agent would find me in an adullt chatroom.