Wednesday, February 5, 2014

CA - Frustrated and Confused

The following was sent to use via the user story form and posted with the users permission.

By Kevin:
Hello, my name is Kevin and I'm a registered sex offender in California.. My story starts of with love. I fell in love with this pretty girl from the Valley her name was Jenny. We hit it off perfect even though our age difference did bother people, she was 30 and I was 26. We had a lot of stuff in common she liked the same music and I liked going to the beach so did she. She also let me know she had a daughter and she was 5, I also had a daughter and she was 5. They got along great. They played and me and Jen it was perfect. Then she also let me know that her ex-husband which they were only separated for 6 months were actually still married it bother me. Then she asked me to move in. I moved in with Jenny and her daughter. Jen's daughter loved me she thought the world of me. Soon Jen's ex found out that I was living there. He found out that I was living there through Jen's daughter, she was bragging about how I would take her place's Disney land the park , etc. He didn't like that very much that he was being replaced, which that wasn't my intent. So started saying that I was molesting her to my girlfriend, she didn't believe a word of it. Like a month later late 2005, child services came knocking at my door at 1 in the morning accompanied by a police officer, they came several time's in the span of 1 month, I think it was about 4 times they found nothing and the little girl said nothing was happening, a month later the little girl went over her dad's for the weekend and she never came back. I guess it was legal since they weren't legally divorced. So the bastard decided to brainwash her and she told detectives that I touched her. I was outraged that he was saying these things about me that weren't true. So Jenny and her X took her to the doctor's office too make sure I wasn't doing anything they found nothing the little girl told the doctor I wasn't doing anything. He still was trying so hard to get me in trouble for some sick reason. I cooperated with detectives. I went down to the police station with out a lawyer and cooperated and nothing happened, still they pressed on. So I came up with me taking a lie detector test. I'm innocent, so I went downtown. And they grilled me, they were trying to get me to admit that I shoved a sharp object up her rectum, which I thought was odd being as the little girl would be in pain and she would have told her mom, She is very smart little girl. For some reason they said I admitted to fondling her because I said I've taken a bath with her on occasion, which I never did, I told them I'm not pedophile, I like to have relation's with women my age I'm far from being a pedophile. So after 8 months in jail I was convicted of a lewd act with a child under 14. I paid a lawyer and that's what he got me, he said that I admitted to it by telling them I took a bath with her and that I touched her by cleaning her. I'm confused and frustrated. I don't know why this has happened to me sometimes I feel like there is no hope. I'm married now with two boys of my own that I love so much. I've always had the backing of my friends and family which keeps me going everyday. I don't feel like a sex offender but California does. What can I do?


anon said...

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. The worst part is that no elected official wants to look "soft" on sex offenders so they will continue to pile more and more on as long as they can get away with it. Until another group comes along that politicians can exploit, everything will be piled against sex offenders. My guess is that in the next few years the list is going to expand exponentially and will at some point become so costly and cumbersome that things may start to change, but don't count on it. If you have the support of your family and friends, you have something special that many others do not. Just take one day at a time and pray that things get better.

sloan44 said...

Continue to follow all rules/ laws of your state, county and city pertaining to x offenders. It's wrong, it hurt's and it suck's. but many are in the same boat. Stay strong! We will overcome!

Frank Worley said...

You really need to read this and spread it around to all RSO's you know. As Anon says below, there is no end in sight. The only way to escape is to organize and get out. Here's one plan to do that:

caligirl said...

What can you do? You can Show Up, Stand Up and Speak Up! with California RSOL. No use crying over spilled milk, what is done is done. Your only chance for you to have a shot at a decent life is to help get these laws changed. California RSOL, while still a young organization, has dedicated leadership and quite a few successes in the court system. See the recent Cypress story. - Looks like there is an open meeting next Saturday.

Only those get help who help themselves.

g4change said...

Sadly, this is why you NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER talk to these scumbag cops. They love to prey on people who are innocent...because they have nothing to hide and are the most forthcoming. Then, they say one simple innocent thing, and these pigs twist it and spin it. NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER talk to the cops without a lawyer. Period! I'm not preaching this to be in your face or make you feel bad. I'm just saying this so that people will learn from it for the future.