Friday, August 16, 2013

CA - How to teach your kids to live in fear and not trust anybody?

Child living in fear
Original Article

A lot of this is good advice and parents should teach their kids, but this article sounds like it would scare kids more than make them feel safe.

At one point in time we had kids all over the place playing and enjoying life, now they are always inside, afraid to do anything on their own anymore. It's sad and pathetic.



The new school year is here, and the adjustment to returning to school may take a few weeks. Returning to school can be fun and exciting, with every day bringing new experiences, but it can also be difficult for some children.

Kids today are faced with far more than learning new material. Interacting with teachers and other students, bullying, peer pressure and school violence are just a few of the challenges children face. You can help prepare your children for the experiences they will face at school each day and help create a safer school environment.

Read the following tips for advice on how to protect your children, and how to teach them to protect themselves.

Getting to School:
  • Give yourself plenty of time as you and your children adjust to the new school schedule.
  • Map out a safe way for your children to walk to school or to the bus stop.
  • Work with other parents in the neighborhood to ensure that children in the neighborhood are supervised closely to and from school.
  • Work with your neighbors and your child on identifying “safe houses” in the neighborhood; homes where your child is familiar and can ask for help if need be.
  • Point out places they should avoid such as vacant lots, alleyways, and construction areas.
  • Encourage your children to use the “buddy system”.
  • Teach your children to never speak to strangers or go anywhere with a stranger, and let them know its okay to report if a stranger tries to approach them. (You should also teach them what a "stranger" is)
  • Teach your children to always be aware of their surroundings. Be aware of slow moving vehicles or parked vehicles that appear to be occupied. Choose a different route or walk on the opposite side of the street.
  • Children need to pay attention to traffic signals and use crosswalks with a crossing guard if available.

Bus Safety:
  • Make sure your children arrive at least five minutes early for the bus.
  • Make sure your children know to stand on the sidewalk while waiting for the bus.
  • Teach your children to make sure the bus driver can see them before walking in front of the bus, and to never walk behind a bus.
  • Be aware that bullying often happens on the bus. Ask your children about their bus rides, who they sit with, and what goes on in the bus. Encourage them to report any bullying behavior.

After School:
  • Have your children check in with an adult as soon as they get home.
  • Show them how to properly lock all doors and windows.
  • Make sure they know to never open a door to a stranger. (And what is a "stranger?")
  • Establish a set of rules; who can come over, when homework must be done, and any chores they must do before you get home.
  • Find a trusted neighbor who will allow your children to come over in case of an emergency.
  • Establish strict rules regarding Internet usage.

At School:
  • Teach your children to resolve problems without fighting.
  • Encourage your children to report bullying behavior, either as a victim or a witness.
  • Ask school officials about the safety and emergency plans for the school, all schools are required to have one.

  • Listen to children and encourage them to talk about their day.
  • Take all complaints about bullying seriously, if you don’t your child may not tell you next time.
  • Watch for symptoms such as withdrawal, a drop in grades, or new friends.
  • Notify the school immediately if you think your child is being bullied.
  • Praise your children when they are kind to others.
  • Teach children self- protection skills; how to walk and talk confidently, stay alert to their surroundings, and to stand up for themselves verbally.
  • IF YOU SEE SOMETHING, SAY SOMETHING” – Parents and children alike should be aware of their surroundings. If you or your child becomes aware of something or someone suspicious near the school, report it to law enforcement. We want to know.

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children offers the following safety tips for parents to discuss with their youngsters.


dlc said...

This sounds like a list of what the parents should already be doing. But no, they want the system to raise their children.

A. Mom said...

Is it odd that all the "After School" tips sound like they assume that children will be home alone unsupervised after school? Is this the norm now? And what is a child? Are we talking 15 year olds? Are we talking 7 year olds?

How about "attempt to organize your life so you can be home when your children return from school. make the sacrifices that need to be made. if it saves one child".