The same can be said for males. The lady in the article talks about double standards when females are convicted compared to males, but then she goes on to say more double standard stuff.
Something you will also notice, the title of the articles when women are charged with sex with children. Males usually have the "pedophile," or "predator" or some other derogatory remark in the title, but women, nope. Women can be pedophiles as well, but pedophiles by definition, are rare.
By Mike Murad
BOISE (KBOI) - The story shocked the valley. A 35-year-old Kuna mom accused of having sex with eight of her teenage son's friends.
This story was shocking on its own, but there are several other valley women serving time right now as sexual offenders.
KBOI-TV spoke with a local counselor who treats sex offenders. She told us some years she has no female clients.
That's hardly the case now.
But it's why they're doing it that seems to separate male from female sex offenders.
- This story leads you to believe that women do it for other reasons and men only do it for sex, which is flat out wrong. Some do, some don't, mostly it's about control.
[name withheld], [name withheld], [name withheld] and [name withheld] are just four of the local women now labeled as sex offenders. And all of their victims are under 16.
"You think about the 16-year-old boy that hooks up with the really attractive 30 year-old down the street, and our society, our culture, hasn't wanted to call that sexual abuse," says Sandra McCullough, a sex offender treatment counselor.
- I think the media is also to partly blame for this double standard. They don't report on female sex offenders as often as we know they occur, so people tend to think it doesn't happen very much, but we are sure it does happen more than people believe.
McCullough says there are some years she hasn't seen a single female client. Right now she has six.
But McCullough doesn't think it's happening more often, it's just being reported more.
"I think we're just starting to wake up and realize it's offending," says McCullough. "And people are prosecuting, they're not sweeping it under the table. They're saying this is not OK."
Erica Kallin agrees. She heads the Special Victim's Unit at the Canyon County Prosecutor's Office. Kallin says prosecuting female over male sex offenders has inherent hurdles.
- Why? They should all be treated the same.
"It's extremely difficult," says Kallin. "It's a huge double standard when you're looking at offenders."
Kallin says, society tends to think an adolescent boy is "getting lucky" or "scored" when he has a sexual relationship with a woman, but the same doesn't hold when the roles are reversed.
There is one big difference when it comes to the question of "why" for male and female offenders.
McCullough says women who sexually abuse children aren't always looking for sex.
- And neither are all men!
"Part of what's hard is that they will say things like 'I didn't give a rip about the sex,'" says McCullough. "Women will get into those situations for emotional gratification because they're lonely. We have that with men also, but they have the underlying attraction to the female that I don't see very often with females."
- But you said above that you've not seen many females in your many years, so are you basing this all on a few cases?
Despite female sex offenders making news more often in the Treasure Valley recently, female sex crimes are far from an epidemic.
- And so is male sex crimes.
Twenty three percent of male inmates in Idaho have a sexual component to their crimes. For females, it's less than 1 percent.
- If they sexually abused anybody, then there is a sexual component. I think people are trying to make this more difficult than it is. Women are usually the ones who falsely accused others of sexual crimes, and when it comes out, most did it because they didn't want their husband / mothers, etc to find out about their sex-capades. And women can get a way with claiming they were lonely, etc, etc, but if a male tried that it wouldn't matter, they'd still be convicted of the crime, as the woman should as well.
[name withheld] was a 37-year-old married mother of three and a teacher at Meridian Middle School when she was caught in September, 2009 with a 13-year-old boy in bushes near the school.
Three months later [name withheld] pleaded guilty to having sex with him.
"I failed to be the responsible and moral adult I should have been," [name withheld] said during her sentencing. "And I only wish I could go back and re-do those two months of my life."
KBOI-TV contacted [name withheld] who is serving her sentence in Pocatello, to ask her why she would risk her family, her career and her reputation to have sex with a child.
[name withheld] declined an interview, but sent us a letter.
She wrote, in part, she has "deep feelings of remorse... for the pain and harm my selfish actions have caused my victim..."
- And I'm sure most believe her at face value, but if a male said what she said, they'd not believe him.
[name withheld] also wrote that the treatment she's receiving in prison has been "exceptional."
But therapy for female sex offenders is still relatively new and changing.
"We're flying by the seat of our pants," says McCullough. "I see more mental health issues with the females. Quite often, they're almost more psychologically damaged," she says. "Not all of them, but a good chunk of them, which makes recovery more difficult."
- Why are you flying by the seat of your pants? Treatment should be the same for everyone, regardless of whether you have a penis or not. And the same can be said for males as well.
[name withheld] was sentenced to 20 years in prison, but she can ask for parole after serving just four years.
If she is granted parole, she could be out as early as this December.
Friday, May 17, 2013
ID - It's not all about sex for female offenders