Friday, May 6, 2011

‘Jesus, what have I done?’: rock star Steve Tyler’s traumatic encounter with abortion

Steven Tyles & Julia Holcomb
Original Article


By Kevin Burke

Long before he won accolades as an American Idol (Video) judge, Steven Tyler was a bona-fide rock star, with all that that implied. In 1975, when he was in his late 20s and the lead singer for the band Aerosmith, Tyler persuaded the parents of his 14-year-old girlfriend, Julia Holcomb, to make him her legal guardian so that they could live together in Boston.

When Miss Holcomb and Tyler conceived a child, his longtime friend Ray Tabano convinced Tyler that abortion was the only solution. In the Aerosmith “autobiography,” Walk This Way (in which recollections by all the band members, and their friends and lovers, were assembled by the author Stephen Davis), Tabano says: “So they had the abortion, and it really messed Steven up because it was a boy. He ... saw the whole thing and it [messed] him up big time.”

Tyler also reflects on his abortion experience in the autobiography. “It was a big crisis. It’s a major thing when you’re growing something with a woman, but they convinced us that it would never work out and would ruin our lives. ... You go to the doctor and they put the needle in her belly and they squeeze the stuff in and you watch. And it comes out dead. I was pretty devastated. In my mind, I’m going, Jesus, what have I done?

The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders defines a traumatic event as follows: “1. The person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event or events that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury, or a threat to the physical integrity of self or others. 2. The person’s response involved intense fear, helplessness, or horror.”

Those who support abortion rights assure us that post-abortion complications are a myth. But Steven Tyler cuts through this fog of denial and lays it on the line: Jesus, what have I done?

This is the cry of a post-abortive father whose very intimate exposure to the reality of abortion fits the textbook definition of trauma — as set down by the very same American Psychiatric Association that assures us abortion is a safe procedure with no negative effects on a man’s or a woman’s mental health.


What happens to someone who is exposed to a traumatic event and fails to process the images and memories of that experience and heal the psychic wounds? The person is likely to go numb, run, and act out the unresolved themes of the trauma.

There is no easier occupation in which to react this way to post-abortion trauma than that of a rock star in the 1970s and ’80s.

After the abortion, Tyler began a torrid affair with Playboy model Bebe Buell while still seeing Julia, the mother of his aborted son. If you were wondering what happened to Julia (who is referred to as Diana Hall in the book) after this purportedly psychologically safe procedure, Bebe tells us: “There were many suicidal calls from poor Diana as they were breaking up. It was actually a pretty sad time.”

And how was Steven coping?

He went on a European concert tour, accompanied by Bebe, who tells us: “He was crazy ... totally drunk, really out of it. ... Steven destroyed his dressing room at Hammersmith ... when we got back from Europe. ... One night I found him on the floor of his bathroom having a drug seizure. He was writhing in pain.

This was followed by Steven’s “Tuinal days” — a period he spent stoned on massive doses of the barbiturate. He says: “I would eat four or five a day ... and be good for a couple of months ... which is why that period is blackout stuff.”

This is the dysfunctional recipe for dealing with post-traumatic stress: Take heavy doses of drugs to numb the memories and feelings — and throw in a portion of toxic rage at bandmates and hotel rooms. Anger, especially in men, is often an undiagnosed sign of depression and repressed grief that needs a healthy expression and healing. Many post-abortive fathers tell us that anger management was a major problem for them after their abortions.

Then Bebe Buell became pregnant with Tyler’s child. She realized it would be impossible to raise a child with him given his out-of-control substance abuse and rock-and-roll lifestyle. She returned to her former lover, the composer, producer, and recording artist Todd Rundgren, who agreed to act as father of the child and keep Tyler’s fatherhood a secret. Their daughter, who grew up to be the actress Liv Tyler, was born on July 1, 1977.


For many post-abortive men and women, the anxiety associated with an abortion can surface at unexpected times, triggered by events such as a subsequent pregnancy, the death of a pet or a loved one, or some other person, place, or thing that in some way connects with the traumatic memory.

Years later, when Tyler married, and he and his wife were expecting their first child, he was still haunted by the abortion: “It affected me later. ... I was afraid. I thought we’d give birth to a six-headed cow because of what I’d done with other women. The real-life guilt was very traumatic for me. Still hurts.

At Rachel’s Vineyard Ministries, we often see men and women many years after their abortion, when they are ready to take a look at this secret and shadowy corner of their souls. Most people cannot make sense of the fragmented, disjointed pieces of their post-abortive lives until they attend a healing program. Tragically, the spin doctors of our pro-abortion culture work overtime to make sure that these connections are never made.

Despite the opposition, post-abortive parents, grandparents, and siblings are finding their way to healing programs around the world. As they travel together through the healing process, they learn from and support one another. They discover that the fragmented pieces of their lives start fitting together and making sense. This may be one of the reasons that it is so difficult to counter the propaganda of the pro-abortion movement. It is often only after the healing journey that post-abortive men and women can see the intimate connection between their abortions and their emotional problems, addictions, and other post-abortion symptoms.


I grew up with the music of Aerosmith as a teenager in the 1970s and continue to have a great respect for the songwriting ability and performing talent of Steven Tyler. His actions in the abortion of his son were very wrong, and he suffered the consequences, as his life descended into a quagmire of addiction and self-destruction. Fortunately, Tyler was successfully treated for his drug addiction in 1986.

At the heart of post-abortion healing is the cleansing of a wounded heart. The post-abortive parent must be free of shame, guilt, and grief before he or she can embrace the unborn child with love. Let us hope and pray that this rock star and Idol judge can make peace with his abortion loss and find forgiveness and reconciliation with God and his aborted son — and that he will then use his considerable talent and influence to call other post-abortive fathers to healing.

NY - E-Stop Law Removes Thousands Of Registered Sex Offenders From Social Network Sites

Fred W. Thiele, Jr.
Original Article

See the quote at the top of our blog! Bypassing their oaths of office and the Constitution for temporary (false) safety, and to help their careers?


Southampton - Living in an information age with technology evolving faster than ever, we face new challenges every day in keeping our children safe. While the Internet provides numerous entertainment and educational benefits, it can also lead unsuspecting users into a dangerous trap. That's why I supported the Electronic Security and Targeting of Online Predators Act (e-STOP, PDF), which, since its passage three years ago, has helped remove more than 24,000 accounts and online profiles linked to registered sex offenders (Ch. 67 of 2008).
- Yes, removed indiscriminately, without due process of law, but simply based on the label "sex offender!" Treating all people wearing this modern day Scarlett letter as if they are all child molesting, pedophile predators just waiting to pounce on someone's child. The Nazi's did that as well!

It can be very difficult for a child or teen to realize the threat posed by sex offenders masking their true identity online. Since the passage of e-STOP, strict online regulations, including prohibiting certain sex offenders from accessing social networking websites and communicating with minors, have helped protect thousands of children who access the web each day.
- And how easy, even with this law, would it be for someone to fake their identity, and do they same? Very easy! So again, it's just a placebo to pacify the sheeple, and to help themselves look "tough!"

The popularity of social networking sites has resulted in the creation of millions of online personalized profiles that allow users to connect and interact with their friends. But, unfortunately, without the proper safeguards (Big Brother), these sites also allow online predators to easily shield their true identities to make unwanted sexual advances on our children. With e-STOP in place, more than two dozen social networking companies receive a list of updated sex offender information from law enforcement (This proves the registry is not sufficient!) every week to identify predators and remove them from their websites. These companies also alert law enforcement to potential sex offenders on their sites. Already, e-STOP has shown that with full cooperation of law enforcement (Big Brother) and social networking companies, thousands of unsafe accounts can be removed, keeping our children out of harm's way.
- What makes them "unsafe?" A label? Again, not all sex offenders used social networks to commit a crime, and not all are child molesters looking for victims either.

New York was the first state in the nation to pass such stringent regulations prohibiting registered sex offenders from using social networking sites to prey on young teens and children (So are they really "preying" on children, or is this just the usual hysteria? I think the latter!). Under e-STOP, sex offenders are mandated to register and keep up-to-date on all current email accounts, screen names and any other form of Internet profiles with law enforcement. By monitoring sex offenders' web use, law enforcement has helped remove offender profiles from social networking sites and eliminate the threat they pose in the online community.
- Is this for all sex offenders, those on and off probation/parole? If it's for those off probation/parole, then it's unconstitutional and a violations of privacy, illegal search and seizure, etc. But again, the Constitution is not worth the paper and ink it's written with, so Big Brother can do anything they wish.

The Internet is a wonderful tool for communication and learning, but without online protection, sex offenders have too many opportunities to reach our children (If they are actually doing that! And so can hackers, identity thieves, terrorists, etc, but they are okay?). As a supporter of e-STOP, I understand the importance of strengthening our laws to protect families around the state from dangerous online predators.

And our comments posted to the article, which probably won't be published, since they don't want opposing opinions.

"Yes, and it's violating people's rights and if the Constitution meant anything anymore, it would be declared unconstitutional. You all took an oath to defend the constitution, which you are not doing.

Not all sex offenders are using Social Networks to look for victims.

More and more people, including politicians, are using Facebook, MySpace, etc, and you are now removing them the right to voice their opinions on the draconian laws.

A Father's Sexting Teen: The Brian Hunt story

A Father's Sexting Teen: The Brian Hunt story (Kindle)
A Father’s Sexting Teen provides surprising details about the story of Brian Hunt, a father who courageously defended his 13-year-old son, after the teenager made national headlines and faced felony child pornography charges and the possibility of having to register as a sex offender for “sexting” when he sent via cell phone an explicit image of a female student. Now, for the first time, Brian Hunt publicly unveils the dramatic and compelling account of his media-based defense strategy to protect his son and also help other parents and families avoid the same nightmare.

LA - Sex Crimes In New Orleans, Separate And Unequal

Original Article


By Trymaine Lee

NEW ORLEANS -- In their neighborhoods, they are sometimes taunted with dirty looks and jeers. Their pictures hang on the walls of local community centers where their children and grandchildren play. And their names and addresses are listed in newspapers and mailed out on postcards to everyone in the neighborhood.

Landing a job or even finding a landlord willing to give them a place to stay is a challenge.

These women wear a scarlet letter -- rather, 11 letters -- spelled out on their driver’s licenses in bright orange text: SEX OFFENDER.

They aren’t child molesters or pedophiles. Most are poor, hard-luck black women in New Orleans who agreed to exchange oral or anal sex for money. In doing so they violated the latest version of Louisiana’s 206-year-old Crime Against Nature law, which carries a maximum penalty of up to five years in prison and registration as a sex offender.

Opponents of the law say it is discriminatory and targets poor women and the gay and transgendered community who engage in what they call “survival sex.” In March, the Center for Constitutional Rights filed a lawsuit on behalf of nine anonymous plaintiffs against the state, Gov. Bobby Jindal (R) and a host of state agencies, calling the law unconstitutional.

There are a number of absurd things in the Louisiana laws, and this is one of the more absurd,” said R. Judson Mitchell, a law professor at the law clinic at Loyola University in New Orleans. “There are crimes against nature happening at strip clubs on Bourbon Street every single night. The difference is we are dealing with women that didn’t have a fancy strip club to go to.”

Indeed, New Orleans has long been a historic bastion of sex and vice, synonymous with food, jazz and the lore of Storyville, the fabled red-light district that clinched the city’s reputation for high-class prostitution more than a century ago. Any night along the city's seamy side streets and in hotels that dot the French Quarter, tourists and locals pay for a variety of sexual pleasures.

Most of the people involved in the sex trade in New Orleans -- and elsewhere, for that matter -- struggle with drug addiction, mental illness or past sexual trauma. Some are homeless and many more use their bodies to fuel their addictions or to feed themselves or their families.

And the statutes that define the solicitation of crimes against nature differ from the state’s prostitution laws. Prostitution, a misdemeanor, includes the solicitation of vaginal sex only. A second conviction of solicitation of oral or anal sex, so-called crimes against nature, is a felony, which requires annual registration as a sex offender for anywhere from 10 years to life. It also requires inclusion on an online database of sexual predators.

In New Orleans, more than 40 percent of the people on the sex offender registry are on in it because of a crime against nature conviction, according to the Center for Constitutional Rights. Of that 40 percent, well over 80 percent are black women.

Louisiana is one of only a few states, if not the only one, that makes the solicitation of different sexual acts separate crimes. And it is the only state that requires people who sell their bodies to register as sex offenders, according to the Center for Constitutional Rights.

Until last summer, when the State Legislature amended the law, a first conviction of a crime against nature was a felony. Though the law was changed to make the first conviction a misdemeanor and the second a felony, it did not grandfather in those convicted of first time offenses before the law was changed.

State Sen. J.P. Morrell (D), who represents New Orleans, sponsored the bill that amended the law. He said he was hoping to get the solicitation of a crime against nature law completely abolished, putting those acts on par with prostitution.

But to get the bill passed he said he had to make concessions. Amending the existing law was progress nonetheless for a state legislature that he said "could be like a bunch of junior high school kids" unwilling to risk political capital over hot-button issues like sex offenders and prostitution.

Having a sex offender label for the rest of your life because you offered to do two kinds of sex over a third kind just doesn’t make any sense,” Morrell said.

Deon Haywood, founder of Women with a Vision, an outreach group that deals with women on the margins that has led the fight against the crime against nature stigma and legislation, called the law an “assault on poor women.”

Who else are the police going to have access to? Poor women, black women and street-based sex workers,” Haywood said. “Once convicted, they are treated the same way as if they were a pedophile or rapist.”

But unlike sex by force or coercion, the solicitation of a crime against nature is in essence a “talking crime.” All it takes is a verbal agreement, an offer.

As a result of our law, not only have we punished them for the mere saying of words, we’ve punished them to an extent greater than if they actually performed the sex act in public,” said Calvin Johnson, a retired Orleans Parish criminal district judge, who said that during a 17-year career he found the law unconstitutional on three separate instances only to be overruled by the state Supreme Court each time. “We’ve punished them to the extent of a felony and made them a sex offender. We have 'X'-ed them out of social benefits, out of jobs, out of neighborhoods, out of housing, which has an adverse effect on society.”

Not only have we punished that person for saying those words,” he continued. “We’ve done the dumbest-ass things that any state could possibly do.”

Sgt. Ryan Lubrano, commander of the New Orleans Police Department’s vice squad, said that his unit’s hands are tied when it comes to what his officers can charge who.

The prostitution statute covers the vaginal sex,” Lubrano said. “That’s the way that it’s written. By law, a crime against nature is oral sex. If someone offers oral sex, I can’t legally arrest them for prostitution.”

Once someone is charged, it’s up to the District Attorney's Office to drop or uphold the charges. Several calls seeking comment from the Orleans Parish District Attorney's Office were not returned.

Lubrano maintained that the cat-and-mouse of sex stings is not discriminatory by nature.

Nazi Concentration Camp Badges
Black girls, white girls, transgendered. When we have an undercover officer riding around the streets posing as a john, it’s whatever is out there,” he said.

But in a scathing report issued by the Justice Department detailing the many failures of the NOPD, federal investigators said the department engaged in targeted and biased policing and abuse of the crime against nature law.

Transgender residents reported that officers are likelier, because of their gender identity, to charge them under the state’s 'crimes against nature' statute -- a statute whose history reflects anti-LGBT sentiment,” the report noted. “For the already vulnerable transgender community, inclusion on the sex offender registry further stigmatizes and marginalizes them, complicating efforts to secure jobs, housing, and obtain services at places like publicly-run emergency shelters.”
- Yes, the same applies to all other sex offender registries, and all other states.

According to the report, released in March, 80 percent of those charged with crimes against nature are African American, “suggesting an element of racial bias” and that those targeted believe officers “equate being African American and transgendered with being a prostitute.”

The Center for Constitutional Rights filed its lawsuit on behalf of nine anonymous plaintiffs, women and men, each of whom have been convicted of crime against nature charges and must register as sex offenders for 15 years to life.

Alexis Agathocleous, an attorney with the center, said the law discriminates against gays and people who engage in socially taboo acts.

This law is discriminatory, unconstitutional and based in a long history of moral disapproval of sex acts, first that are non-procreative and then those historically tied to homosexuality,” said Agathocleous.

As a result, some of the most vulnerable people are forced further underground. Once on the sex offender registry, their state identification cards, driver’s licenses and, in some cases, license plates are stamped with the words "Sex Offender".

They must send out postcards to every single neighbor -- in a one-mile radius in rural communities, three-fourths of a mile in the city -- and must foot the bill for postage. Employers, even at places like fast-food joints, shy away from employing sex offenders. Landlords are weary of associating their addresses with sex offenders. And as the federal report noted, most agencies and in-treatment rehabilitation programs do not accept sex offenders.

The public shaming of these individuals is carried out with little outcry beyond a small circle of lawyers and activists.

"There’s nothing in any of the mailers, announcements or online databases that are sent out that say, 'I’m not a molester, I solicited oral sex,'" said R. Judson Mitchell, the law professor at Loyola University. “So, how does an employer know that you’re not a rapist?

But it’s easy and politically popular. Nobody cares what a sex offender thinks,” Mitchell said. “The idea was that you wouldn’t have real sexual predators living in your neighborhood without you knowing ... but it has grown to include a whole class of people that have nothing predatory in their nature."

To have them register does nothing for public safety and only makes it impossible for these people to move on with their lives and from getting stable housing and getting jobs,” he added.

There’s just the label they wear, in bright orange letters.

So some avoid the shame of their families and neighbors by never registering at all. Not registering when it is legally mandated is a felony offense in itself, and could land violators in jail. In most cases, failure to do so extends their registration requirements.

There’s always going to be this wall, this hurdle that she can’t jump over,” Haywood said on a recent afternoon, sitting at her desk behind a pile of folders detailing the lives and crimes of her clients. “It’s hard for them to maneuver through everyday life. Depression sets in with many of them.”

Haywood peeled open folder after folder, the photocopied, ghostly photos of her clients stapled to a survey that each one filled out to join the sisterhood at Women With a Vision.

Each read much like the one before and after it.

AL - Bill would toughen sex offender law

Sen. Cam Ward
Original Article


By Justin Averette

Legislation drafted by Chilton County State Sen. Cam Ward that would toughen the state’s sex offender registration process passed the Senate on Thursday. The bill will go before the House next week.

If passed, the measure would require stricter registration and close several loopholes in the law, Ward said.

It is of vital importance that we keep our families and neighborhoods safe,” Ward said, in a press release. “This bill will help to protect our children by enabling us to better know where sex offenders are in Alabama.”

Senate Bill 296 will require that adult sex offenders verify their registration information four times a year. The legislation would also require guidelines concerning abandonment of a residence and prohibit sex offenders from living with a minor if the offender’s sibling was his or her victim or if the offender was convicted of a crime involving force against a minor.

The bill would also close a loophole in the law concerning homeless sex offenders. If the law is passed, sex offenders without a permanent residence would be required to register weekly until a fixed residence is established.

The loophole in the current law needed to be closed,” said Ward.

The bill would also give judges discretion to reduce or waive the distance restrictions for certain sex offenders who are terminally ill or permanently disabled. The bill also establishes how those boundaries are to be measured.

CA - Erik Alvarez charged with sex with underage relative resigns from Long Beach Police Department

Erik Alvarez
Original Article


By Tracy Manzer

LONG BEACH -- An Upland man charged with having sex with an underage relative has resigned his position with the Long Beach Police Department.

Erik Alvarez, 42, was assigned to the LBPD's Youth Services Detail when he arrested last week and booked on three felony counts: specifically lewd or lascivious acts with a child 14 or 15 years old and two counts of unlawful sexual intercourse with a minor under the age of 18.

Alvarez was immediately placed on unpaid administrative leave pending the outcome of the criminal proceedings and an internal investigation by the city and police Department, City Attorney Bob Shannon said.

Sometime after Alvarez's arrest the former police officer resigned his post, Shannon said Friday.

If convicted on all counts the defendant could face up to four years and four months in state prison, according to the San Bernardino County District Attorney's Office.

Alvarez is scheduled to return to the Rancho Cucamonga Superior Court on May 25.

He is being held in lieu of $250,000, according to San Bernardino County Jail records.

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