You can see more videos of where ex-offenders, families and children speak out here and here.
Video Description:
This video was NOT made to satisfy self righteous hypocrites. It is simply another way I will use to glorify God.
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Monday, March 4, 2013
Sunday, March 3, 2013
NY - What is the real agenda?
Why was my family used to try to make a legal precedent? The reason why is that their hasn’t been a case yet were any class of people, because of there mere presence was considered neglect so that CPS can take your children. Just for you being with your family. This is being done all over the country to veterans also. How long before this precedent get turned on gun owners as well as other classes of people.
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
ATTN: Reporter looking for stories of collateral damage from the registry
ATTN: Reporter looking for stories of collateral damage from the registry. You can be from any state and have any type of relationship with your loved one on the registry. Shana Rowan, Executive Director, is working with him to put together a comprehensive, respectful, accurate portrayal of the plights of family members. Email Shana at shana.rowan@usafair.org or PM us here for more info.
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Naughty new disorder: Researchers attempting to make consensual sex a mental illness
12/21/2012
By Mike Bundrant
(NaturalNews) Psychiatry continues its imperialistic efforts to diagnose every human condition as a mental illness with a billing code and proper pharmaceutical intervention.
The latest on the docket is sex, with the proposed Hypersexual Disorder.
Yep, if you like to have a lot of sex or use sex to feel good, some medical researchers want you to be diagnosable. What are the "symptoms" of the naughty new disorder?
Science Daily reports:
These include a recurring pattern of sexual fantasies, urges and behaviors lasting a period of six months or longer that are not caused by other issues, such as substance abuse, another medical condition or manic episodes associated with bipolar disorder. Also, individuals who might be diagnosed with this disorder must show a pattern of sexual activity in response to unpleasant mood states, such as feeling depressed, or a pattern of repeatedly using sex as a way of coping with stress.
Well, I guess EVERY GUY WHO HAS EVER LIVED should be sent directly to the psych ward!
Most of the children on this earth would not be here if their father had not been fantasizing about their mother at some point. And let's see - I am feeling down and think that making love might put me in a better state - and WHAT DO YOU KNOW, IT WORKS!
Yet, psychiatrists would rather you believe that you have a disorder and need to be drugged if you use sex in a totally natural way. With these criteria, ANYTHING healthy could apply. Do you use exercise to pick up your mood or reduce stress? How about a hobby? Does gardening get your mind off what is bothering you? Perhaps you have Hypergardening Disorder.
Wednesday, December 5, 2012
Going To Hell with Ted Haggard - What I learned about grace and redemption through my friendship with a Christian pariah
Labels: Forgiveness , Hypocrisy , Story
12/03/2012
By Michael Cheshire
I didn't plan to care about Ted Haggard. After all, I have access to Google and a Bible. I heard about what he did and knew it was wrong. I saw the clips from the news and the HBO documentary about his life after his fall. I honestly felt bad for him but figured it was his own undoing. When the topic came up with others I know in ministry, we would feign sadness, but inside we couldn't care less. One close friend said he would understand it more if Ted had just sinned with a woman. I agreed with him at the time. It's amazing how much more mercy I give to people who struggle with sins I understand. The further their sin is from my own personal struggles, the more judgmental and callous I become. I'm not proud of that. It's just where I was at that time in my walk. But that all changed in one short afternoon.
Eating our own
A while back I was having a business lunch at a sports bar in the Denver area with a close atheist friend. He's a great guy and a very deep thinker. During lunch, he pointed at the large TV screen on the wall. It was set to a channel recapping Ted's fall. He pointed his finger at the HD and said, "That is the reason I will not become a Christian. Many of the things you say make sense, Mike, but that's what keeps me away."
It was well after the story had died down, so I had to study the screen to see what my friend was talking about. I assumed he was referring to Ted's hypocrisy. "Hey man, not all of us do things like that," I responded. He laughed and said, "Michael, you just proved my point. See, that guy said sorry a long time ago. Even his wife and kids stayed and forgave him, but all you Christians still seem to hate him. You guys can't forgive him and let him back into your good graces. Every time you talk to me about God, you explain that he will take me as I am. You say he forgives all my failures and will restore my hope, and as long as I stay outside the church, you say God wants to forgive me. But that guy failed while he was one of you, and most of you are still vicious to him." Then he uttered words that left me reeling: "You Christians eat your own. Always have. Always will."
Change of heart
He was running late for a meeting and had to take off. I, however, could barely move. I studied the TV and read the caption as a well-known religious leader kept shoveling dirt on a man who had admitted he was unclean. And at that moment, my heart started to change. I began to distance myself from my previously harsh statements and tried to understand what Ted and his family must have been through. When I brought up the topic to other men and women I love and respect, the very mention of Haggard's name made our conversations toxic. Their reactions were visceral.
Please understand, this isn't just my experience. Just Google his name and read what is said about him in Christian circles. Most Christians would say God can forgive him, but almost universally people agree that God will never use him again. When I pressed the question, "Why can't God still use Ted?" I was dismissed as foolish or silly. Most of these people got mad and demanded I drop the subject. Perhaps they saw something I was missing, but this response seemed strange. After all, I reasoned, Jesus restored Peter after he denied Christ. That's a pretty big deal. And what about the Scripture that teaches us that the gifts and callings of God are irrevocable? So I felt I needed to meet Ted for myself. So I had my assistant track him down for a lunch appointment. I live outside Denver and he was living in Colorado Springs, a little over an hour away. Perfect!
Thursday, November 29, 2012
The Truth About Recidivism Rates In Sex Offenders
Labels: Opinion , Recidivism , Story
11/29/2012
By Pete Carey
Many people talk about recidivism in sex offenders and to be completely honest - it drives me crazy. I'll admit it probably has everything to do with me being a sex offender - otherwise I likely wouldn't care.
I think what drives me crazy are the individuals that jump on the bandwagon and repeat hearsay versus fact. It's the neighborhood activists that proclaim neighbors are unsafe with offenders in them. These are people that are simply creating a false hysteria. There's no 'safety' in this thought process. If I ever ask someone to cite sources and open a discussion with me about the topic, I'm met with statements like 'it's common sense' or a hostile attitude.
But seriously, think about it. If I wanted to re-offend (... which I don't) what good is it that my picture is posted on a website? I've asked numerous 'stay at home' parents to describe any sex offender's appearance that lives within 5 miles. None of them have been able to give me just one description.
Not only that, but if I was going to re-offend, is the public ignorant enough to think that I would re-offend at my house or my place of employment? (... because these are the only two places that I'm required to register where I am located.) I'm not required to share when I go to the grocery store, when I go to the park, when I go to a soccer game, etc. It seems to me that hysteria has grossly trumped 'common sense' in this department.
Recidivism isn't good with any crime. People are flawed. Without diving into the religious side of that statement, let's all just agree that individuals all do dumb things... and some of those individuals repeat those dumb things. Those are just the facts.
But, when it comes to comparing risks and percentages of repeating - the facts speak loudly. I just don't think many people are listening. Ironically, it was my state required therapist that told me the public is misinformed. Here's a woman that spends 40+ hours a week talking and counseling numerous convicted sexual offenders - and she was the one that told me sexual offenders have the lowest recidivism rates outside of murder. (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 2006)
She shared with me that one study (... based on sex offenders released from prison in 1994) from the Department of Justice suggests:
Within 3 years following their 1994 state prison release, 5.3 percent of sex offenders (... men who had committed rape or sexual assault) were rearrested for another sex crime. Not only that, sex offenders were less likely than non-sex offenders to be rearrested for ANY criminal offense - 43 percent of sexual offenders versus 68 percent of non-sex offenders.
Again, these are facts and not hearsay. Once the public starts to accept these facts, perhaps sex offenders can move toward being encouraged to rehabilitate versus being shamed and avoided.
Article by Pete Carey. Pete is the featured author, editor and publisher of mySOlife.Com. As a registered sex offender, Pete writes openly about addiction, therapy and most importantly... "how to live life with a label."
Engage in the discussion while he shares not only his testimony, but also his thoughts, perspectives and advice at mySOlife.Com.
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
NY - Sex offender registry not the way to protect children
Labels: CrimeVigilante , NewYork , OnlineRegistry , RegMurder , Story , UserSubmitted
11/27/2012
I live with a good and decent man. He is a loving and caring person and he is my fiancé. He is also a registered sex offender.
I was therefore horrified and heartbroken to read the letter from Cathy DuBois, where she pleads with parents to check the registry so they can see where all the “monsters” live.
I have no doubt that her letter came from a place in her heart that cares deeply for the safety of our children. It is not surprising, considering that all registered sex offenders are frequently painted with the same broad brush of the worst serial pedophiles and child abductors. Those emotional and tragic stories obscure the fact that most registrants have nothing in common with these most heinous offenders.
Ms. Dubois’ letter is rooted in the mistaken belief that registrants will commit a new sex crime. She most likely doesn’t know that sex offenders have one of the lowest recidivism rates of all crimes other than murder – typically ranging from 3% to 10% depending on the study.
My fiancée is on the registry for a juvenile offense involving incest, the sub-set of offenders with the lowest recidivism rate of all. As a minor himself, he engaged in inappropriate sexual activity with his half-sister. Years from now, when we have the children we hope for, will they also have to endure the stigma, hatred and fear of reprisal we already feel every day (Video, Video, Video)? Letters like Ms. Dubois’ make me concerned for our future, and terrified for ourselves and the millions of other family members who have a loved one on the registry.
The media’s mischaracterizations of all people on the registry and subsequent public reactions are becoming dangerous hate speech with a growing number of tragic consequences.
In June, a vigilante in Washington killed two registered sex offenders and told police he was going to keep going until he was caught. Having slain people who have been cast as monsters, he thought of himself as a hero. He murdered Jerry Ray, the primary care giver to his elderly father and Gary Blanton, who left behind his wife and two young boys.
There are challenges to loving a registered sex offender, and I do my best to leave those challenges outside and feel safe and secure in the comfort of the home we just bought together. But at times I am jolted in the back of my mind when I wonder if a letter like Ms. DuBois’ will be the tipping point for a sick mind in our town… and bring a true monster to our door.
Sincerely,
Shana Rowan
Executive Director
USA FAIR, Inc.
Monday, November 19, 2012
CO - Sex Offenders – Remember It’s Just A Label
Excerpt:
I’m not perfect by any means. Even years after horrible turmoil, I struggle with many things – including the sex offenders registry. Some days my emotions go all over the place. Some days life seems really good. Some days life seems really bad. I guess that’s just part of life, huh?
I think what might be hard for me is that life was simply not like that a number of years ago. Honestly, life was pretty easy. Good things came naturally to me. It wasn’t hard to make friends. It wasn’t hard to excel at pretty much whatever I set my mind to, etc.
Saturday, November 17, 2012
Sex-Offender Laws Doomed by Flawed Reasoning
Labels: CivilCommitment , National , Punishment , Recidivism , Registration , RegistryIsPunishment , Residency , Story , Treatment
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| Paul Appelbaum |
11/16/2012
By Aaron Levin
How to prevent convicted sex offenders from committing further crimes is a policy dilemma that has been met with punishing legal responses.
Laws and policies intended to control sex offenders are ineffective, expensive, unenforceable—and unlikely to be changed.
“These laws are preventive and punitive in intent and effect, motivated by a desire to contain but not to treat,” said Paul Appelbaum, M.D., the Dollard professor of psychiatry, medicine, and law and director of the Division of Law, Ethics, and Psychiatry at Columbia University. Appelbaum spoke at APA’s 2012 Institute on Psychiatric Services in New York in October.
Sentencing of convicted sex offenders underwent a major change about 30 years ago, he explained. For most of the 20th century, sex offenders were given sentences of indeterminate length in hopes that they would become rehabilitated. With little evidence of efficacy using that approach, courts in the 1980s switched to “determinate sentencing,” with fixed prison terms.
“The change went from punishing the offender to punishing the crime,” said Appelbaum.
In addition, “sexually violent predator” statutes were passed in many states, reflecting a state of panic in the 1990s about sex crimes against children. They mandated civil commitment “in a treatment facility” once offenders had completed their prison sentences. Treatment might be offered, but was voluntary. As of 2010, 5,300 sex offenders were committed under these statutes.
The process also shifted a new burden onto mental health systems, filling beds needed for other patients and diverting funds from an already under-funded system.
Detention is expensive. A Minnesota study revealed costs of $120,000 annually per offender. Since none of the offenders in the state had been released since the program’s inception in 1994, costs can only go up.
“Still, this system was seen as akin to civil commitment and thus raised fewer constitutional issues,” said Appelbaum. The Supreme Court has upheld the system three times. “But is civil commitment a pretext for preventive detention, and is the mental health system the right place for that?” he asked.
Other Strategies Questioned
Confinement is not the only way that governments have attempted to restrict convicted sex offenders as a means of reducing recidivism.
State and federal laws call for registration of offenders and, as of July 2012, more than 700,000 were registered nationwide.
Community notification laws require that local jurisdictions be alerted to the presence of offenders and the information displayed on a Web site.
“Yet many of these laws cover non-contact offenses, or sex by underage teens, or even offenses by young children,” said Appelbaum. “Offenders are often harassed and find it hard to reestablish their lives, find a job, or receive mental health treatment.”
A third approach in 20 states and hundreds of cities restricts residency and workplace options to points at least 1,000 to 2,000 feet from schools, churches, day-care centers, or even bus stops.
“This has placed entire towns completely off limits,” said Appelbaum. “And is creating sex-offender ghettos a good idea? Maybe it’s better to not have them around each other.”
A study by Appelbaum and Jacqueline Berenson, M.D., found that 92 percent of registered sex offenders in Buffalo, N.Y., and 100 percent of those in Schenectady, N.Y., lived in restricted locations in those cities.
Clearly, these laws are not being enforced, reflecting a choice by police, said Appelbaum.
“The law doesn’t make sense to the police,” he said. “They see it more like jaywalking than homicide.”
Flawed Reasoning Underlies Laws
He listed a number of flaws in the thinking behind registration, notification, and residency laws. They are indiscriminate, based on weak premises, and are likely to be counterproductive, he said.
“For one thing, most sex offenses against children are committed by family members and friends, not by strangers,” he said. “and while the premise of such laws is that sex offenders are likely to re-offend, in fact only 13.4 percent do so, compared to 60 percent of felons in general.”
Although the laws are intended to protect children from sexual predators, many of the offenders did not commit crimes against children. There are no data indicating that they target children near where they live or work—and some anecdotal reports indicate that those are the last places they would commit their crimes.
Also disturbing is the dearth of research on the treatment of sex offenders, especially in the United States, Appelbaum noted.
“Medications like SSRIs, depoprovera, or lupralide are understudied and underutilized,” he said. “Treatment has been dominated by therapists who favor cognitive-behavioral therapy and resist medication.”
“This area is a major challenge for rational policy making, and there is little political support for change,” he said.
Ideally, it might be better not to create a new system but instead keep offenders within the correctional system while beginning treatment soon after they are incarcerated, Appelbaum suggested. A return to indeterminate sentencing might permit many to be released once they had responded adequately to treatment.
An abstract of “A Geospatial Analysis of the Impact of Sex Offender Residency Restrictions in Two New York Counties” by Appelbaum and Berenson in Law and Human Behavior is posted at http://psycnet.apa.org/?&fa=main.doiLanding&doi=10.1007/s10979-010-9235-3.
Sunday, October 14, 2012
Pariahs among us: Sex offender laws in the 21st century
Labels: GPS , Halloween , HumanRightsWatch , lawSuit , MassHysteria , National , RomeoAndJuliet , Story , Suicide , UrinatingInPublic
Why is it that those outside the US can see the draconian nature of these laws, but we cannot?
10/14/2012
By Charlotte Silver
Stringent sex offender laws in the United States destroy lives and do little to mitigate repeat offences.
Maybe it is not so surprising that all we can think to do with a subject we are simultaneously obsessed with and repulsed by is publicise it at every opportunity.
Sex crimes: The only kind of offence in the United States that compels all convicted perpetrators to register their name, address, date of birth, fingerprints and a photograph on a public website.
And what constitutes a sex crime? The breadth of this damning classification is alarming and includes public urination, consensual teen sex, sale of sex and exposure of genitals (including in the case of children) - as well as violent rape.
One poignant example of the irrationality and senseless devastation of overreaching sex offender laws is the story of Evan B, as told by (PDF) Lara Geer Farley. When Evan was in high school he was arrested for exposing himself to a group of his female peers. A court sentenced him to four months in prison, but after he was released he was obliged to register as a sex offender. The stigma drove Evan to drop out of school, leave his home in Salina, Oklahoma and move to Tulsa, where the arduous requirements associated with his sex offender status meant that he could not maintain employment. A month before he should have turned 20, Evan shot and killed himself.
And this: A comprehensive Human Rights Watch report, published in 2007, draws attention to the common case of teenage boys aged 15, 16, 17, who have consensual sex with their teenaged girlfriends, finding themselves charged with pedophilia. They will be labelled and publicly registered as "pedophiles" for the rest of their lives.
In some states, boys as young as 10 who expose themselves to their female friends or relatives are forced to register as a "sex offender" before they understand what sex - or exposure - is.
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Whoopi Goldberg and others on "The View" show their ignorance!
Labels: NewYork , Story , UserSubmitted , Video
Where are the signs for other criminals? Murderers, gang members, drug dealers, DUI offenders, abusive husbands/wives/parents/baby sitters, etc? Not all ex-sex offenders are child molesters, and everybody has rights. If they eradicate one groups rights, then your rights should be eradicated as well.
Video Description:
Asking Whoopi Goldberg to retract her statement on The View (10/09/2012), that sex offenders should put up signs on Halloween saying "a real monster lives here." Join me in letting the media know that not only is this not an accurate characterization, it also endangers the welfare of the children and families of registrants and ask that she make a public retraction!
Video Description:
Asking Whoopi Goldberg to retract her statement on The View (10/09/2012), that sex offenders should put up signs on Halloween saying "a real monster lives here." Join me in letting the media know that not only is this not an accurate characterization, it also endangers the welfare of the children and families of registrants and ask that she make a public retraction!
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Sunday, October 7, 2012
AUSTRALIA - Sex Offender Documentary
Labels: Australia , Documentary , International , Story , UserSubmitted , Video
P.S.: The author has also disabled embedding, which we have asked that they enable it, so others can share the videos, so in the meantime, you will have to click the playlist link below the video, or visit their channel above.
Documentary Description:
I have placed on here in sections a 10 hour DVD my son has made as a part of trying to free himself from abusive cycles. He made this so he could take it to people who maybe able to create change. In the DVD he addresses issues like the sex offenders register, the courts, the police, the prison system and other subjects. There is a lot of rare insight and helpful answers that I hope may help others from what ever walk of life they are from. This DVD gives a truthful look at the entire system from a person that has had 25 years involvement with it.
- Chapter 01 - Introduction
- Chapter 02 - The Sex Offenders register
- Chapter 03 - My court case
- Chapter 04 - Today's position
- Chapter 05 - The courts
- Chapter 06 - The prison system
- Chapter 06.1 - Shocking follow up
- Chapter 07 - The Police
- Chapter 08 - My Police experience
- Chapter 09 - Vigilantism
- Chapter 10 - The Government & the misleading of the people
- Chapter 11 - In closing
- Chapter 12 - Bonus chapter: Legal BS, Technicalities & Revelations
Friday, October 5, 2012
Do You Know Where Your Children Are? Is That Always A Good Thing?
Labels: Fear , International , MassHysteria , National , Story , StrangerDanger
10/01/2012
By Robert Krulwich
There was a time — and it wasn't that long ago — when kids would leave home on a summer morning and roam free. "I knew kids who were pushed out the door at eight in the morning," writes Bill Bryson of his childhood in the 1950s, "and not allowed back until five unless they were on fire or actively bleeding." That's what kids did. They went out. Parents let them, and everybody did it. "If you stood on any corner with a bike — any corner anywhere — more than a hundred children, many of whom you had never seen before, would appear and ask you where you were going," Bryson writes. That was then.
But it's not now. Look at what's been happening all over the developed world. The Thomas family has been living in Sheffield, a town toward the north of England, for at least four generations. When great-grandpa George Thomas turned 8 in 1919, he was allowed to walk six miles — by himself — to go fishing. But each generation after has been given less and less room to roam.
In 1950, when Jack, the grandfather, turned 8, he was allowed to go just a mile on his own to visit the woods.
In 1979, when Vicky, the mom, turned 8, she was allowed to ride her bike around the immediate neighborhood, walk by herself to school, and could visit a swimming pool on her own. Her zone of play was a half-mile wide.
And then we have the current generation, Ed.
His freedom to roam is drastically different from his great-granddad's. In an interview with the Daily Mail in 2007, Vicky said her son, then 8, was "driven the few minutes to school, is taken by car to a safe place to ride his bike and can roam no more than 300 yards from home." Basically, he stays on the block.
In fact, she says, he prefers the family yard to the street outside. "He doesn't tend to go out because the other children don't," she said.
The Thomases are not unusual. A 1990 study called "One False Move" (PDF) tracked the unsupervised play spaces of British children across generations and found the newest 8-year-olds have 1/9th the roaming territory of their parents. That's a one-generation change. Back in the 1970s, 80 percent of British 7- and 8-year-olds were allowed to go to school unsupervised. By 1990, the percentage was 10 percent.
These days in the United States, writes scholar Chelsea Benson, "children spend an average of 30 minutes per week engaged in free play outdoors." Their parents won't let them out alone. "Children do not have the time or parental permission to explore natural areas and create their own special places," she says. "Unstructured time outdoors is becoming a thing of the past."
What's happened? Back in the 1950s in Des Moines, parents must have known their kids would do stupid things, like jump off trestle bridges into filthy rivers. Bill Bryson regularly leaped into the Raccoon River, which was a watery soup of "dead fish, old tires, oil drums, algal slime, heavy metal effluents and uncategorizable goo." He describes sneaking to the top of a shopping center past "a vicious, eagle-eyed stick of a woman named Mrs. Musgrove who hated little boys," to get to a perch eight floors directly above a lobby restaurant onto which he would drop peanut M&Ms.
"A peanut M&M that falls seventy feet into a bowl of tomato soup makes one heck of a splash, I can tell you," he says.
Are modern parents trying to protect innocent soup eaters from their 8-year-olds?
No, say the studies. Parents today are afraid that their children will be hurt, bullied or even abducted close to home. And they worry longer. In Italy, reports Chelsea Benson, "71 percent of 7- to 12-year-olds are always accompanied by adults on journeys to and from school." (12-year-olds? Really?)
Are These Fears Real?
Maybe parents have good reason to fear strangers, predators or heavy traffic. Maybe they think their friends will think them irresponsible to let their kids go unsupervised. Maybe media horror stories are more horrible these days. Or more accurate.
Whatever is causing this, children don't seem to be objecting. In this, too, the Thomas family in Britain is typical. Eight-year-olds these days seem content to stay close to home, plugged in to Playstations, iPads, their phones, texting away. Richard Louv, a columnist for the San Diego Union-Tribune, worries that bugs and creepy crawly things may become more alien, more "other," if kids stay out of the woods. All over the world, children may not be getting to explore plants and animals in natural settings on their own. That's a loss, he thinks. Will they know what they're missing? In 2005, Louv asked a fourth-grader in San Diego where he liked to play, indoors or out? The kid said, "I like to play indoors better 'cause that's where the electric outlets are."
See Also:
Bill Bryson's book about growing up in Des Moines can be found in his The Life and Times of the Thunderbolt Kid. Chelsea Benson's graduate thesis about child play is now a book, Changing Places. Mayer Hillman, John Adams and John Whitelegg's study of how families in Britain are shrinking their unsupervised play spaces is called One False Move ... A Study of Children's Independent Mobility (PDF), from the Policy Studies Institute in London.
Wednesday, October 3, 2012
The Elephant Rope
Labels: International , National , Story
He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. "Well," trainer said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free."
The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were.
Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?
Failure is part of learning; we should never give up the struggle in life.
Wednesday, September 19, 2012
NY - How New York is trying to grab certain people’s children
07/24/2012
By Brian
I am a level 3 registered sex offender, living in the state of New York. We moved to New York in September of 2011. I have been out for nearly 11 years. (October will be 11 years) I have followed the laws and regulations for registration in every state I have lived. North Carolina, Virginia, Pennsylvania and New York. But New York does one thing differently. In New York you are assigned a court hearing. At that hearing they will then assess your level. On March 3, 2012 I was given the designation of Level 3 offender.
As had been done in Pennsylvania, approximately June 8th, 2012 the state of New York had posted flyers all over town to make sure that everyone was aware that I was living in town. I am sympathetic to the rule and understand why they do it.
On June 12, 2012 my world came to a crashing halt. Jennifer Allen from the DSS (Department of Social Services) knocked on my door. We asked what she was there for and she claimed that an allegation had been made against me. We asked what the allegation was and she refused to tell us, but kept saying if we let her in, she would talk to us. Having not been awake very long, I let her in.
As she sat down on the couch in the living room, she had said that the allegation was ‘other’ and the ‘other’ was that I am a level 3 sex offender, living in the home with a child under the age of 2, and have not had sex offender treatment. That was it. She started to ask questions about my convictions, if I drank what treatment had I had etc. It didn’t take very long for me to wake up after that and tell her she needed to leave my home.
She actually refused to leave and it took me saying to her 2 more times to leave. On her way out the door, she told my wife that she would be back because she was going to her supervisors to have us taken to family court that day. After she left, we packed up the children’s clothes, picked up my son from school and headed to Pennsylvania to my wife’s parents house. In that short period of time, she had returned back to our home and called my wife to ask her why we were not there. My wife told her we were picking my son up, as it was raining that day. She had told my wife that she needed to be in family court immediately.
Wednesday, September 5, 2012
Alyssa Dawson looking for participants for her master's thesis
Labels: Story , UserSubmitted
Hello,
I am recruiting participants for my master’s thesis. If you know someone who is a partner or ex-partner of a sex offender and have a child under 18 with that offender, please share this opportunity to tell their story with them. For details of this project, as well as associated risks and benefits, I can be contacted at adawson@rams.colostate.edu.
Thank you.
Alyssa Dawson
Learn to Manage Your Critics to Get Valuable Insight WIthout the Vitriol
09/05/2012
By Alan Henry
Criticism is an important part of our lives, but all too often it comes in a form that's light on feedback and heavy on snark and sarcasm. That doesn't make it less valuable however: you just have to learn how to manage your critics to get the most useful information out of them.
The folks at 99U have a great guide to managing your critics, especially if you perform, write, or do any work in a grou or in public. One thing that stood out to us specifically was the concept of letting your critics work out their criticisms among themselves before trying to dive in yourself and ask questions or sort out what nugget of truth may be hidden in their feedback. Often it's better to let the matter settle for a day or so before approaching the coworker, friend, or commenter with your thoughts on the issue.
We've discussed how to take criticism before, and even how to give it without coming off like a jerk, but the idea of letting your critics sort out what's valid and what isn't is a good one, especially if your coworkers are eager to offer feedback or your audience can always be counted on for an alternative viewpoint. Remember, even if it's difficult to take, criticism can—and should—help you learn to be better at what you do.
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Thursday, August 9, 2012
Producer looking for a story - Mom whose son/daughter was involved in a Romeo & Juliet type crime
Labels: Story , UserSubmitted , WARStories
Hi Folks,
I have a producer looking for a particular type of story and let me just say this up front. Women Against Registry advocates for all types of offenses and we are working to get the media and television entities to expand their story lines.
She is looking for a Mom whose daughter or son was involved in a Romeo & Juliet type scenario and the individual is incarcerated.
She is also looking for a story where a Romeo & Juliet couple are now married and he/she are on the registry.
If your family falls within either of those criteria and you would be willing to be interviewed please contact me right away.
Vicki Henry
Women Against Registry
202-630-0345
Thursday, July 12, 2012
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Labels: OurThoughts , Story
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Monday, May 28, 2012
AR - Please Make Sure Your Registry Info Is Correct Before Moving
Labels: Arkansas , Registration , RegistryErrors , Story , Tennessee , UserSubmitted
By DC:
I paroled out of Arkansas Department of Corrections on 2/24/2011. The very morning I paroled out I signed a Arkansas Sex Offender Registration form even though I did an interstate compact and paroled out to Tennessee. I registered in TN on 3/1/2011 and has since been added to the national sex offender web-site. Well today something came up as I was talking to my parole officer here in TN and he looked at the Arkansas Crime Information Center (ACIC) and informed me that I wasn't registered in AR. Now I have been in contact with ACIC on many times before and have had them mail information to me at my TN address as I am working on getting other legal matter cleared up. But today when I contact ACIC sex offender department they informed me they still had me listed as incarcerated and it was my job to get them the information they needed to update my statics. Plus they informed me that I will now be on the ACIC's web-site as well even though I do not live in AR anymore. So please pass this on to any other RSO who may have paroled out of AR. Make sure that there paperwork is correct before it is too late.
Thank You
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