Original Article
10/31/2011
When someone hears the words “
sex offender,” they automatically think of the worst kinds of criminals including those suspects who commit crimes against children and those who have been habitual offenders. But not all crimes are violent ones.
“
I don’t think parents should be concerned because we are not monsters,” says
[name withheld] who fights the stigma of “
sex offender” every day.
In 1994 when he was 18-years-old, he was convicted of having consensual sex with a 15-year -old girl.
This landed him in prison for 12 years with a lifelong label as a sex offender.
“
Lots of people just don’t want to take the chances with me,” says
[name withheld].
[name withheld] is just one of the dozens of sex offenders living near school bus stops in Suffolk.
But his situation is a bit different than most because he is a member of the Better Men Coaltion.
The organization was created six months ago and it tries to help offenders who are just coming out of prison and those who are homeless attempting to get off the streets.
“
If you give them right opportunity and right road to travel, a lot of them turn out to be decent tax paying citizens,” says
[name withheld] who is a former offender himself. He teamed up with Suffolk businessman Bob Battaglia.
They’ve created several companies including a car wash and a lawn care service to give job experience to offenders while helping them assimilate back into society.
Seven men in the program are sex offenders, many of them considered non-violent.
[name withheld], who lives between two bus stops on Washington Street, knows better than most about the concerns parents have.
He was sexually abused at the age of four by boyfriends of his mother.
“
Bunch of guys that were pedophiles and child molesters, and I was a victim of their fantasies that went on,” says
[name withheld].
Even though he has seen the worst perversions society can create, he also knows there are many like himself, labeled as sex offenders, who would never want to hurt children.
“
Parents can get that mixed up, crisscrossed in between the lines, label one sex offender the same as the rest of them. That’s just like prejudging someone before you get to know the actual person,” says
[name withheld].
NewsChannel 3 asked Hampton Roads residents if sex offenders can change, and many of them were not convinced.
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Generally with these people, once they do it once, they will do it again and again and again,” commented one resident.
According to statistics from the Virginia State Crime Commission, about 13 percent of sex offenders commit another sexual crime in the ten years after they are released from prison....
That means the majority do indeed turn their lives around.
[name withheld] and
[name withheld] hope they can as well.